Part of looking after yourself is about finding the right person to support you through some difficult decisions.
It can be a huge leap out of your comfort zone to make that first contact with a coach: you may think that by so doing you are admitting not being able to find the way forward yourself.
Not at all: contacting a coach is about recognising what you need at this time is some support, someone to bounce ideas onto who has no agenda in relation to the decisions you make.
Working with a coach is also a powerful catalyst for becoming aware of how you can actually take the action you need to take to do the things you’ve been dithering about for so long.
Perhaps you haven’t made a decision about something in your life because you want to be sure it will be the right decision. If it seems like what you want to do then it probably is.
Can we ever know what is the right decision? Unless you have a go at the things you really want to do, how can you ever know whether its will be right or wrong for you? Go for it!!
The value of working with a coach is unquantifiable: after a few sessions you will make huge leaps in what you think, do and believe about yourself.
This is what a recent client (consultant physician) emailed me after a few weeks coaching from me: ‘While at first, phone calls and e-mails seemed a funny way to discuss such personal matters, it really works. When I feel in danger of becoming a ‘I hate my job’ bore with my friends – I can tell you instead! Somehow you helped me to lift my head up above the endless cycle of asking myself the same questions over and over again, and help me to take control over my decisions. I think that you have helped me to gain a lot of confidence in myself over the last few months, and have helped me to do my work a lot better. While ultimately the decision is mine, it is lovely to have your support and encouragement. It is important to me that you are independent with no ‘angle’ on my decision, unlike my husband and parents (who would prefer me to continue in my work but are coming round to the idea that they would like me to be happy) The hardest thing that you have started is to help me face up to uncertainty about the future. Well if my boss seems happy to do that – he seems confident that he would be able to fill my job, then I should be. I find his confidence in his ability to replace me a little unnerving!’
Sometimes you realise that something has to change in your life: a coach can be the catalyst you need. Contact me to find out if Coaching could help you.
